Ego- One Of The Many Reasons For The Failure Of Marriages

Before I list why marriages fail for men, let me define what I mean by a man’s marriage failing.

What I mean here when I say that a marriage fails is that your wife has lost interest in you. Or at least, she’s not as interested in you as you’d like. If it gets bad, she eventually expresses her disinterest in you by either: a) wanting to leave you, or b) cheating on you.

Ego gives birth to various ill feelings and grudges inside a person’s mind. Grudges are held back due to ego. Men get offended due to ego and leads to situations where they lose their temperament. This may harm the married life. The ego problems stop a man from becoming a caring and good husband and thereby creating rift. They can neither address various problems which could have been solved otherwise. The cracks which developed in the relationship due to ego go far beyond repair.

Blame game leads to the failure of many marriages

Marriages fail because of blame: It is a factor which forces many marriages to fail. There are many instances where men blame their wives and then they hold their wives responsible for the problems in marriage. Their married lives revolve around a single subject and that becomes blame.

Logic: What?! How can logic be a reason why marriages fail?! Well, read on, and you’ll see. How your wife behaves depends on how she feels. And how she feels will never change with logic. So don’t try to convince your wife with logic that she should behave differently. It’s not about logic. It’s about emotion. So get used to thinking in terms of emotion, and not in terms of logic. Many men fail to recognize their wife’s emotions, and that’s a big reason why marriages fail for them. On a practical level, what does that mean? For one, it means stop arguing with her and trying to convince her to see things your way.

The logical considerations can never be taken into consideration and hence this factor cannot be used to tackle marriage related problems. A husband should never try to justify a wife’s behavior with logic. The emotional part should be taken into consideration since the husband must understand the emotions of his wife. This helps in dealing with situations in a better way. Just emotion helps a lot; no justification is needed.